I’m really into personality tests, learning about different personalities and self-development. I thought it would be fun to take the enneagram test as a couple to see what our differences were. So we took the free version that we found online, I may have had to force Colby and wanted to share what we’ve learned about ourselves.
If you don’t know anything about the enneagram test, there are 9 main personalities. But then there are things called wings and the more I learn the more complicated it gets. Each personality has its good and bad traits. The whole purpose I think of the test is to help you become a healthier version of who you are. Don’t worry, if you read your description and think, wow, I have the worst personality in the world. Because that’s how I felt when I read mine.
I would say that although Colby and I get along great, I don’t think we have a lot of personality traits that are in common. So it was a shocking surprise to learn that we both came out being a type 7, enthusiast/adventurer personality. Colby tested with a wing of 8 while tested with a wing of 6.
If your curious, this is where we took our test, the classic version, from. But we also loved the enneagram institute to learn more about personalities. I’ve also enjoyed joining FB groups for our personality just to learn more and hear opinions about others who might be similar as we are.
Seven’s are known for their adventurous side and this applies to both of us. Whether it’s a little adventure or something big, we are always looking for the next thing. For me, I’m drawn to travel and it makes sense that my personality type supports that. Colby loves the outdoors and exploring. People tell us all the time that we are always doing something, which is most of the time true. If not we are making plans to do something.
Our seven personality comes out differently when we will travel. I tend to be the type that wants to squeeze in as much as I can, doing stuff, seeing stuff and eating stuff. Colby loves all of that but loves to take some time to chill and relax and just take it all in. He doesn’t want to feel like he needs a vacation from his vacation.
Enneagram Seven’s are also known to be futuristic and love to have options. This is so true for me. I don’t think it helps that I’m so into personal development because I know the future me is going to be better. I find myself reasoning that if I do X, Y or Z that it will make my future better. I struggle with being content where I am, to appreciate what I have now because my mind is always on the next thing. I’m also a planner, always having back up options already figured out because I’m uncomfortable with failure. This doesn’t apply to Colby very much.
On the other hand, Colby is a quick thinker who can grasp concepts super easily, but also move from one concept to the next very quickly. But that also means that he has a hard time slowing it back down to explain how he connected the things so quickly. This was one of those oh my gosh, this makes so much sense moments for him when he was reading about being a seven.
Seven’s tend to be extroverted and I would say that’s true in a sense for the both of us. We don’t mind hanging out with people, but I don’t feel energized from those interactions. It drains me to hang out with people who don’t get me, who don’t have a lot of similar interests as me. A huge one is hanging out with people who don’t have a more spontaneous side to them. It makes me frustrated making plans with these friends and often I feel drained afterward hanging out with them. For both of us, we consider ourselves extroverted introverts and need to feel the need to recharge. It’s interesting because the way we recharge, for Colby a good solo hike rather for me it’s cuddling up with some YouTube is so different as well.
Seven’s have a hard time focusing, but when they can it can lead to being highly successful. I see this happening in my life when I look back on my school life. I was focused in school, really wanting to have good grades and it showed. I was known to be studious and a good student.
But now, I feel I have a harder time to narrow down and focus on something because I have this fear of missing out on other opportunities or options. I find it harder to focus on something that’s not bringing any stimulation. As we try to focus on growing our social media following, our podcast, working on our business, all of these things that we are at the beginning stage, it’s frustrating how slowly it’s going. No, I don’t expect to be an overnight success. But I also feel frustrated that things aren’t going as fast as I want to which most of the time leads me to quit something. I wonder if this cycle is why I have a personal belief that I can’t finish anything. Listen more about that here.
Another negative side for the seven’s is that they enjoy pleasures which tend to lead them to become easily addicted. If you listened to the previous episode on our podcast all about social media, you would know that I confessed how I feel addicted to it. It wasn’t until about 5 years or so ago that I realized that I live with an addictive personality. I’ve had to create some boundaries for myself that have helped me control myself. For Colby older habits that have been engrained are harder to control and break versus new ones are easier. But he doesn’t have a huge addictive characteristic as I do.
Enneagram seven’s are known to not handle negative emotions or pain very well, avoiding it by searching for distractions. Colby admits to avoiding any of this like the plague itself, not wanting to go down the road. Basically, to him, it’s a waste of time wallowing in a problem that you can’t solve at the current moment. On the other hand, for me, the pain just hurts so much that I don’t want to work through it as everyone tells you too. I’ve come to learn that I’m totally fine admitting that things were painful, heck, I might cry but I’m more than willing to talk about painful moments. FYI, I cry super easily. But even in hindsight, I can’t stand dwelling on them. I think because of this, we have a hard time being empathetic towards others when they need that time to work through the pain.
I would say that we are both very decisive naturally. We both know what we do like and don’t. It doesn’t take much time for us to make decisions. And because this decisiveness leads our lives, it might come across as self-centered because we are always doing what we want to do. I also think that when you tend to be decisive naturally, it can come across as being super self-confident. Which isn’t true all the time. But I think it could be overwhelming for others to be around individuals who appear so self-confident and decisive that it comes across as self-centered or even entitled.
Well, that’s a wrap of directing our enneagram personality type seven for you. We hope that you were able to learn more about seven’s in general, and how within the type not everyone is the same. We feel that understanding more and more about your personality gives you the option to know yourself better. To even guide you on how you can change to be a healthier you. If you do know your enneagram type, we would love to know what it is. Leave us a comment!